Marriage obviously means that I’ve had at least one successful relationship in my life (not all relationships that end are unsuccessful.) While being married gives a me a different perspective about love and relationships, that doesn't always mean I can answer every question about your love life, but it does mean that I have more experience with a long-term relationship and can allow me to give advice in certain situations. When women discover that I'm married, they believe somehow that I “have my shit together” and it seems to me that they often times rule me out as a threat. I believe that the real question is: Why do women view each other as a threat?
Women have it hard enough. Society has ridiculous beauty standards that we are expected to live up to in order to be considered a candidate for matrimony and even monogamy. But wait. It really isn't all that simple. Yes, first impressions are important, but after all, aren't we all supposed to look at the individual's soul in order to find a "soul mate?"
I have a challenge for you. Pick up the next women’s magazine that you see and count how many advertisements feature a female that isn’t categorized as SKINNY. If you found even one, you’re in the minority. Now, relationships involve many different aspects: love, friendship, sex, the ability to be a good parent (if that is both partners’ choice,) and even managerial roles. When people choose to marry, do they specifically marry for beauty or sex? Typically not, and I do understand that sex is important in marriage, but why do so many individuals let society determine what we are attracted to? Can’t we find a person’s charm, wit, sense of humor, or their ability to love sexy? It is beyond time that we stop viewing sexuality as just a physical aspect and get to a deeper understanding of what makes a person sexy. Shake off the stereotypical woman that society and advertising companies want you to be and just do the damn thing. BE SEXY. BE YOU.
