I got married at 18 to the BEST human being I have ever met. So, what exactly does this kind of thing mean? The only individuals that I have seen make these types of posts are women. Are single women now bashing others who got married before them? Statements like "SINGLE AND WAITING FOR GOD'S BEST!" offend me. Does your religion have to be a public forum?
Now, I really have no idea where it is that I lay in regards to religion and the idea of a higher power, but that doesn't affect my position here. For me, my exploration in relation to God and religion is completely private, something I don't even discuss with my husband. When women share these types of posts, what they don't take into consideration is those people in their lives, who are important to them, that are married, engaged, or in a relationship. I take these types of posts to say, "HEY! Married person! You obviously didn't marry the BEST, because you didn't wait as long as me!" (Should those people ever even get married.) This comes across as a publicity stunt.
I think these types of beliefs and posts are embarrassing. Owning the fact that you haven't met a mate, rather than saying that it is God's doing, is much more sensible. Would you want to show this to you parents? What if they got married young? Do you think that they didn't marry the best person for them?
Now, I'm sure that there are single women in the world who see the way I do. Why is it that our culture so quickly says that God has a hand in our falling in love? Atheists fall in love. Wiccans fall in love. People who have never even had an opportunity to explore any sort of religion fall in love. If someone doesn't believe in God, or worship God in the same way someone who agrees with the "waiting for God's best" mindset, does that mean that they don't deserve to have the BEST significant other for them?
Yes, on the U.S. dollar, "In God We Trust" is printed, but isn't that unfair to other people who don't share these ideals? Americans seem too often involved with Christianity to the point of single-mindedness. These sorts of ideas also do not take into consideration that you may date or marry someone of a different religion--or even NO religion.
If you ask me, love is more scientific than religious.
What I'm trying to say here is that in order to actually find love and be open to different people in your life, holding yourself accountable is more important than hoping and praying to find love. If someone is really wanting to get married, it's important to take steps toward that and make an effort. Just like anything great, with the help of God or not, there is work involved.
If you are single and feel like you're just waiting around, re-evaluate what you think it is that you want in a partner. Look in the mirror and in your heart to see if you are actually available to be in a relationship. Do you fulfill your own life? Are you a good person or do you just wear the mask of a good person? Are your standards realistic? I ask these types of question because I've known a lot of people who have been really interested in someone they barely know, but completely brush off someone that has similar values and whatnot because they don't think that person is "good looking enough" for them.
Love has no rules or real explanations, so why force so many complexities into the same category as love? Let it be and try to remember that YOU are responsible for your life.
